Having a baby while you are in college can be rough. However, it is possible to still get a college education with a baby in tow. Here is how Forrest and I survived attending college (and eventually graduating) with a baby.
Right after I announced my pregnancy, I ran into an acquaintance at the store.
I mentioned that I was pregnant, and soon after I told her of my plans to finish college, she laughed and said, “Ha, well…we’ll see about that.”
And it made me so mad!
Just because I was having a baby didn’t mean I couldn’t finish school.
That less than five-minute encounter with this girl became one of my driving forces to finish college.
In April of 2013, both Forrest and I both received our Bachelors degrees and proved that it is possible to have a baby while in school.
1) Take less classes
This can be a pain, especially if you are trying to finish as quickly as possible.
But I found that it was so much doable when I only had to concentrate on two or three classes during the semester.
Not only was it easier to not take on the 17 credits I had normally taken (personally, I think that was just a bad idea even as an unmarried and childless student!), but I did so much better than previous semesters.
I graduated a year later than I had initially planned, but I’ve also graduated with a much higher GPA than semesters before I was married or having a baby.
Plus, you need time to focus on your baby! If you are taking tons of classes, it can become difficult to balance baby time, and school time. You need to be able to divide your time appropriately.
2) Enlist Help
Remember this – it is near impossible to get through college with a baby or other child without any help.
We were very blessed to have family nearby most of the time after Jack was born.
But even if you don’t have family, don’t be afraid to ask close friends or even friends from community or church friends.
Of course, don’t take advantage of anyone. If someone agrees to help you, make sure to give them plenty of notice, offer to trade babysitting, and come up with a payment arrangement if necessary.
3) Talk with professors
Make sure you let your professors know about your situation.
I’m not saying to ask them for special treatment or anything, but I think it’s important for professors to know if occasionally an emergency were to come up. When I was pregnant, and Jack was due in the middle of the semester, I contacted my professor before the semester even started to let him know about what was going on.
He told me that the class was demanding and that he had had students in a similar situation before. Some excelled, others did not.
However, he knew what was going on before the semester started, and he was more than happy to work with me. I actually ended up doing almost all my assignments before Jack was born (one of the perks of only taking two classes), and I got a great grade in the class. We communicated a lot during the time that Jack was born, and it ended up being a great experience.
This past fall semester, I also talked with professors beforehand so they knew I had a baby who may occasionally make an appearance.
I know that they appreciated that, and they welcomed Jack when he did come with me.
There were a few times I had to leave class to answer a phone call from a doctor, or I was a few minutes late, but they were always understanding and knew I wasn’t slacking off.
It probably helped that I always turned my assignments in on time, and I did them well. But I think things went better because I did communicate with them.
4) Grants and Scholarships
College is expensive, obviously.
If you are eligible for any kind of financial aid, be sure take advantage of that.
Personally, I prefer the route of using grants and scholarships, since they don’t have to be paid back. Student loans may be tempting, but I would avoid those if possible. Grants are given to people who fall below a certain income level, which is determined by filling out the FAFSA. We’ve qualified for grants since we the time we got married, since our income was pretty low.
Scholarships are also an excellent way to help fund your college experience. Be sure to check with your specific college or department, because there are often scholarships available through those venues that are easier to get, because you aren’t competing against an entire University! The applications for these are usually due several months before a semester even begins, so be proactive.
5) Carefully plan your schedule
This may be a no-brainer, especially if you’ve meticulously planned your schedules in the past, but with a baby, it’s even more important!
Try and schedule your classes during nap time, and avoid feeding times if possible.
And if you are like Forrest and me, and both you and your spouse are attending school, this is even more important!
During the semester Jack was born, we planned everything perfect.
Well, until Forrest had to add one more class at the last second in order to maintain financial aid eligibility.
And since we were in such a rush to make sure we didn’t hit miss the add-drop deadline, he just added a racquetball class that happened to be right during my class. Big mistake! We were able to work it out, but it would have made life so much easier had we been a little more careful.
6) Baby Map Your Campus
7) Take “Alternative” Classes
It can be easier to take classes during the day, but when you have a child, consider looking into different options your school offers.
At BYU, they have evening, online, and even some weekend classes. I don’t know how I would have finished without these!
I often had classes that were in the late afternoon, early evening, and I’ve taken countless online classes.
The last semester I only had online classes, which was such a blessing.
Forrest was gone at his internship all day, and my sister (who often would watch Jack) moved away, which meant it was going to be hard to finish the last two classes I needed.
Luckily, BYU has an amazing Independent Study program (look into it if need to take some classes, even if you aren’t at BYU. They offer high school and university level courses) that had the two classes I needed to take. Online classes can present its own set of challenges, but for the most part, I am so grateful that I was able to do my last two classes online.
8) Take it One Day at a Time
Not every day is going to be easy.
You may feel so exhausted, and wonder if it’s worth it.
But take it from me — it is.
I can’t even describe the sense of accomplishment I felt as I walked across the stage last week to receive my diploma. Graduating was something I knew I had to do for myself and for my family.
College isn’t for everyone, and that’s totally fine, but for me, I wanted to finish.
But believe me, there were SO many days that I told Forrest I was done.
Luckily, those moments didn’t last for long, and I pushed through.
Just remember that you can do it, even if it takes you longer than the average student.
Even if your school starts sending you emails, encouraging you to finish, just do everything the best you can. And most importantly, stay positive!
Katie is a Colorado-native, BYU graduated, and most importantly, wife to one and mother to three beautiful boys. She is passionate about sharing her experiences with others – especially about pregnancy, breastfeeding, cooking, and crafts. She is currently training to be a Certified Lactation Educator. She loves spending time with her family and helping others find joy in family life.